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The Aha Moment

      

        Aha moment- a moment of sudden realization, inspiration, insight, recognition, or comprehension.  Ever wonder how something so little can have the most profound effect on someone or something.  Take the fable the lion and the mouse the lion has a thorn in its paw and can't get it out so the lion askes a passing mouse if he would pull the thorn from its paw.  The mouse replied to the lion why would I pull the thorn if you're just going to eat me afterward.  The lion replies I promise not to eat you if you remove the thorn.  So the mouse with blind faith pulls the thorn and the lion lets him go on his way. How could something so small have a huge impact?  Well for me something in episode ten gave me that aha moment and it was small.  I was really close to giving up on the series until this episode and that moment of clarity.  

        Cocoa episode 10.  This is when I fully identified with Carmilla.  So, seriously a cup of cocoa a small gesture by Carmilla is what gave me that aha moment.  In the scene, Laura had been working tirelessly for eight teen hours and Carmilla was sleeping all day like usual.  Carmilla says you look like crap and goes about her business like normal.  Up to this point, Carmill has only been thinking about herself every time she goes to the kitchen she is either stealing Laura's food or drinking her own concoction.  Carmilla leaves the kitchen with a mug and sits it by Laura and leaves.  Laura is shocked by this.  This tinny thing is a huge turning point in the story.  It's someone who has this dark and cynical persona who is only worried about their own neck doing something selfless for another person. It’s a huge step even though it seems so small of a gesture for Carmilla it's a huge moment for her.  Something has changed inside her to want to help Laura.

        So, why did this moment, this simple little moment strike so hard with me?  Simple I stopped doing the little things in my relationship with L.  I became more focused on myself, my work, my coaching, and our kids and didn't want to do the little things. 

    Back when L and I met I would constantly be do little things, making her dinner, shooting her a text just to show I cared, take her out for ice cream.  If I knew she had a hard day I would do something unexpected to brighten her day.  For some reason, I just stopped and the longer it went on I just stopped doing even the basics.  I had fallen into a dark place like Carmilla this place in life where we are sad and lost and just going through the motions.  

    So when Carmilla brought Laura the cocoa I was not just inspired.  I was enlightened to my sadness and darkness.  Sure L was trying to show me I was lost, but sometimes we just need to hear it or see it from someone else’s point of view.   Cocoa something so simple and yet so very powerful to both me and Carmilla.


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