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The Breakup

 

A breakup is never easy.  They tend to leave in their wake a path of destruction and tend to cause even more problems.  Breakups can be mutual or just one person saying enough and walking out on everything.  In this case, we're talking about one person walking out on the other.  For Carmilla, she had enough of Laura putting everyone ahead of her and Laura's happiness.  

         "No Heroics" Episode 15.   That volcano that started bubbling after the quote has finally reached its point of eruption.  Laura has asked Carmilla to betray her sister for the greater good again.  Carmilla's response is no.   Then the argument begins with Carmilla eventually telling Laura that she loves her but is unwilling to change who she is.  Laura says " If you really loved me, then you’d stay.  I need you to be the kind of person that helps and … fights.  Carmilla responds with "You haven’t listened to a single word I’ve said.  I’m done." and just like that, a profession of love turns into a hard hard breakup.  Carmilla isn't doing this for herself she is doing this for Laura to show her she needs to grow a little.  Does it hurt?  Hell yes.  It hurts and it's going to be a struggle but in no way is Carmilla giving up on Laura or any type of relationship with Laura.  She will always be there waiting and protecting Laura.  

          L and I never officially broke up.  We however came close a few times and getting married doesn't exclude you from this.  Of the closest, it has been in the last year.  We were so far apart we were just going through the motions and neither of us was happy.  The sadness that Carmilla and Laura are experiencing we felt they were lucky they could be somewhat apart.  How we handled it was very similar to Laura and Carmilla.  L dove deep into work coaching and our kids I isolated myself and was self-destructive.  L tried and tried to tell me she wasn't happy and the sad part is I didn't care I felt so alone and not listened to.  We argued a lot we went to bed mad a lot we were just not us.  Things were not good until I discovered this series.   

    

    
    Things always get messy when love is involved especially when you have opposites and one falls faster than the other.  For L and me that was me I definitely fell harder faster but I waited for her to make sure she was ready too.  I could have given up on those stairs (It's a Trap! Kind of.) and just moved on. I gave her space and things worked out.  I let her figure out what she wanted and catch up to where I was at.  I have a feeling Carmilla will sit and wait.  Waiting for the right moment so when Laura has caught up she's ready to forgive her.  That's all you can do. In later episodes, it shows post-break-up both are handling it hard which means things are not finished.  After the stairs, I stepped back and we stayed friends until we were more than that,  but the weeks until the talk was hard because I knew there was more there than just two people who liked each other.  
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